It is indeed quite usual to deem religious and spiritual different things. I think we have Christian & al. false religious practices to blame. But are they actually "religion"? Or is that pretending religious bigotry or lip & eye worship similar to saying that one is "spiritual" if he follows the extremely shallow New Age doctrines mentioned by Kenazis?
This comes to personal preferences. Personally I like the word "religion" more than "spirituality", for the latter seems a bit more modern & carefree for my personal taste. Religion, ethymologically collecting & fastening into something (cf. yoking by & into something; similar to Sanskrit yoga), is hard, and actual spirituality is hard. I can't stand happy go lucky people, who always end up dancing their way upon other people's toes... (Someone slept only one hour last night & is cranky. )
Yeah, nay. I even like the old mind road that makes all magic "black magic"; not in the sense that it should not be practiced, but in the sense that it joins to the material element in one way or the other. The way (ceremonial & other) magic is holy is the different way of holiness than actual innermost spirituality, that is ultimately formless aspiration & ability to shatter one's preferred form, when that becomes necessary.
Always; and if that starts to piss someone off, that person has most likely attached to the word ethics some extra burden that does not factually belong there.