Re: World in Crisis
Posted: Wed Mar 18, 2020 8:11 am
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This could be a place of another discussion but I used to think something like this in the past as well, that our views on death are somehow unnatural. During the last couple of years I've been questioning it more. I don't know if there really is any "natural" relationship with death and the fact that some day each of us will die. Basically it's something each of us knows and learn as we grow. What could be more natural? Other cultures might seem to have more natural views on it, like we might have had in the past but are/were those people really more capable in dying? I think we're all pretty good at it in the end.Ave wrote: ↑Tue Mar 17, 2020 9:57 pm Here in Finland the official justification for the restrictions has been that we are "protecting the weak" (the sick, the elderly). Seriously, if I was old and sick I wouldn't want the rest of the society to conform like this because of my state. And in the end the corona hysteria boils down to the fact that our culture lacks a natural and reflective take on Death.
In a merely physical point of view we all succeed in dying, but there is more to dying than that. To me dying is a skill, an art even. It is woven to our skill to truly live. Truly living is being ready to die when the time comes. By "natural take on Death" I meant the fear-free realization that death is a inevitable part of greater Life. Death is Life and fear of each particular death is more of a fear of life. I have also witness that in the medical culture (amongst doctors) there is a great resistance towards death - which to me has nothing to do with the medic's etchical principle of alleviatig the suffering. Resistance is not love or empathy - resistance is fear. Fear is suffering. In the medical field doctors are prone to prescirpt un-necessary medical measures to the dying because they lack the palliative care skills and aren't able to face the death of the patient. This causes unnecessary suffering to the patient (I have witnessed this with my own eyes and ears). Luckily the palliative care is evolving even here in Finland.Aquila wrote: ↑Wed Mar 18, 2020 10:38 amThis could be a place of another discussion but I used to think something like this in the past as well, that our views on death are somehow unnatural. During the last couple of years I've been questioning it more. I don't know if there really is any "natural" relationship with death and the fact that some day each of us will die. Basically it's something each of us knows and learn as we grow. What could be more natural? Other cultures might seem to have more natural views on it, like we might have had in the past but are/were those people really more capable in dying? I think we're all pretty good at it in the end.Ave wrote: ↑Tue Mar 17, 2020 9:57 pm Here in Finland the official justification for the restrictions has been that we are "protecting the weak" (the sick, the elderly). Seriously, if I was old and sick I wouldn't want the rest of the society to conform like this because of my state. And in the end the corona hysteria boils down to the fact that our culture lacks a natural and reflective take on Death.
I never meant that protecting the weak was in it self an undesired goal. Humanity wouldn't have evolved without this etchical standard. I was just analyzing the motives and spirit behind this discurse in this particular corona-case. (Also I get the point behing "lowering the curbe" -argument.)Aquila wrote: ↑Wed Mar 18, 2020 10:38 am It's only ethical to "protect the weak". Those who we think are the so called weak are not a bunch of people lying in hospital beds waiting to die but they are our friends, parents and grandparents who are still capable of living, thinking and doing what ever they do. It's not only about people who are in some ways incapable of living normal life anymore or that there would be need to conform to someone's state of health. (It's also good to remember that if they are not protected, our public health system will soon be flooded with people who could have been protected and then things start to sack as the public health system is flooded and no one gets any help anymore.)
What is growing old - but dying (for dying is a process, not an exact point in time)? The elderly carry physiological death in their being - it's imminent within them. I wish that this society would esteem the elderly higher: their wisdom, their beauty.Aquila wrote: ↑Wed Mar 18, 2020 10:38 am
This leads us to another issue: In my opinion we don't have so much problems with dying some day. Instead we have trouble growing old as we idealize youth and individuality. We have a very skewed perspective on old people which I guess might be because in larger sense we have lost contact to our own background and the idea that we need each other. We look at ourselves as individuals in very unhealthy way which makes us think that we should always be able to carry ourselves. Growing old and being an individual don't mix well because sooner or later you will need other people. Then it turns into shame because we have the false image in our head that as individuals we should be able to take care of ourselves and accept no help. Some day it will lead into a dead end. Maybe this crisis can teach us something, maybe not.
By saying that "in the end we're all pretty good at dying" I meant that we all will be facing the idea of our own death in a way or another. Most of us will see our parents and loved ones die too. It's not only about consciously thinking, meditating or ritualistically approaching this fact experiencing it in many nuanced aspects of life itself. What the doctors are doing does not really represent our culture of dying in it's totality. They have certain kind of task which involves trying to keep people alive so I kind of think their actions are based on other kind of reasoning than what we probably have on this forum. Yet I hope people would have more freedom of dying if they choose that option during serious illness or if there is no hope for recovery. What I want to say is that death is around us all the time and it affects us unconsciously too. I can't expect the so called common people to take an esoteric relationship to death and start acting without fear when I can't even do it by myself. Maybe this will sound funny but I don't want to die because I still have lot of things to do and I don't want be reborn (in meaning of starting again), at least not just yetAve wrote: ↑Wed Mar 18, 2020 1:27 pmIn a merely physical point of view we all succeed in dying, but there is more to dying than that. To me dying is a skill, an art even. It is woven to our skill to truly live. Truly living is being ready to die when the time comes. By "natural take on Death" I meant the fear-free realization that death is a inevitable part of greater Life. Death is Life and fear of each particular death is more of a fear of life. I have also witness that in the medical culture (amongst doctors) there is a great resistance towards death - which to me has nothing to do with the medic's etchical principle of alleviatig the suffering. Resistance is not love or empathy - resistance is fear. Fear is suffering. In the medical field doctors are prone to prescirpt un-necessary medical measures to the dying because they lack the palliative care skills and aren't able to face the death of the patient. This causes unnecessary suffering to the patient (I have witnessed this with my own eyes and ears). Luckily the palliative care is evolving even here in Finland.Aquila wrote: ↑Wed Mar 18, 2020 10:38 amThis could be a place of another discussion but I used to think something like this in the past as well, that our views on death are somehow unnatural. During the last couple of years I've been questioning it more. I don't know if there really is any "natural" relationship with death and the fact that some day each of us will die. Basically it's something each of us knows and learn as we grow. What could be more natural? Other cultures might seem to have more natural views on it, like we might have had in the past but are/were those people really more capable in dying? I think we're all pretty good at it in the end.Ave wrote: ↑Tue Mar 17, 2020 9:57 pm Here in Finland the official justification for the restrictions has been that we are "protecting the weak" (the sick, the elderly). Seriously, if I was old and sick I wouldn't want the rest of the society to conform like this because of my state. And in the end the corona hysteria boils down to the fact that our culture lacks a natural and reflective take on Death.
When it comes to the crisis, it seems everything is more meaningful, which points to some secular loose/lazy parts in my experience of the day-to-day stuff when the world isn’t coming down to its knees. Just now went to get my blanket and thought that the sun is going down and the warmth vanishes as the night comes, instantly seeing the romantic meaning in that. This isn’t totally abnormal, but felt more vivid and sort of instant in a way.
Not sure, if that last sentence was sarcasm but I'll just take it as lovinly snarky bitAquila wrote: ↑Wed Mar 18, 2020 3:35 pm
In the end, I think that we can't really get rid of fear. We can overcome fear and that is to accept it. And to accept fear is to accept it within other people like within ourselves. Then I can only come to the conclusion of who am I to say how anyone should think of their own death and the fear it causes and how to act upon it. It's easy to judge people but after all, in one of our aspects, we're just animals trying to cope with various situations. Not all of us are esotericists who have found the answers of life and death.
Today my 6 yo. daughter asked me to tell about the past. Telling her history stories made me again realize how much some things have evolved since then.
I didn't mean to be sarcastic or anything, sorry!Ave wrote: ↑Wed Mar 18, 2020 7:42 pmNot sure, if that last sentence was sarcasm but I'll just take it as lovinly snarky bitAquila wrote: ↑Wed Mar 18, 2020 3:35 pm
In the end, I think that we can't really get rid of fear. We can overcome fear and that is to accept it. And to accept fear is to accept it within other people like within ourselves. Then I can only come to the conclusion of who am I to say how anyone should think of their own death and the fear it causes and how to act upon it. It's easy to judge people but after all, in one of our aspects, we're just animals trying to cope with various situations. Not all of us are esotericists who have found the answers of life and death.![]()
Yes, one ought not to resist fear. I was forced to accept mine, since it was too overwhelming for too long (I've lived with fear of dying from early age on). Still, reflection of it is an ongoing thing, not something that someone can "graduate from" however courageous one might be. And I do not have any death wishes myself (anymore). I love to be alive.
This conversation has lived in me and broadened my perspectives, even thought - and mostly because - our standpoints seem to differ.
I didn't mean to be judgemental, but maybe I came across like that? And yes, I admit being judgemental about this corona panic. Yet, I'm trying to recover from my judgement and resistance.