I would like to offer one perspective for the problems mentioned (ie. uncontrollability, power of desire, jealousy and intimacy). This might not be a solution for others but I see it meaningful for me.
Personally I feel that it can be bit dangerous to consider some emotions as bad or something that should be avoided, especially if the emotion is strong. When one sees an emotion as something low, “animal” or unfitting for an occultist, it can lead to a tendency of pushing unwanted emotions deep within and never truly facing them. I think this is something that creates psychological problems and also later cause spiritual deviations in occult practices.
Many traditions hold stable, tranquil and clear mind in high esteem and have developed different techniques for obtaining single pointed concentration. Different meditative states are often considered as necessary for occult work. But it is not easy to obtain, or at least for me. Many, like me, find their minds constantly stirring, confused, full of thoughts etc. But if you observe closely the content of your mind, it less likely that the mind is really plagued with uncontrollable urges to think mathematical equations or other purely abstract thinking. Even when engaging in our never ending inner dialog, it is quite often sparked by emotions like frustration, jealousy, hatred, insecurities, etc.. Someone said/did/did not do something etc. or we failed to live up to our image of ideal images that stirred ours feelings which in turn made us think about all these. More we have these unresolved issues like jealousy, more there are things that triggers the storm of inner dialog. At least my own thinking/mind is way more “controllable” when my emotions are clear and when the emotions are conflicting or reflect earlier “bad” experiences the thinking becomes excessive and uncontrollable. And if the mind content is only abstract thoughts, they are more easily directed and slowly controlled.
Therefore I think one way an occultist can practice their mind is to confront the feeling straight on. Just immerse oneself with them either when they happen naturally or in case of traumatic emotions, artificially trigger them using imagination. When the emotion appears, just start observing them without analyzing them with words, for they are not thoughts with words but emotions with feeling. Just look at the emotion and feel it in your body, energy and “astral” body. Where does it feel and how does it feel. Just by bringing your whole consciousness to it, the feeling often starts to transform. It may become something else, or start moving to different location. If it transforms to an another emotion, these can be the actual emotions which are behind it or they can be the ways how you hide or compensate the feeling. This makes you, some times painfully, aware of your own dynamics. Sometimes you find out that behind the jealousy there might be insecurity, fear of loosing the another, fear of being inferior in sex/kissing/friendship etc., fear of being alone etc.
By understanding the dynamics, you might be able to approach the situation or emotion more freely. It is way easier to communicate with the other involved in the situation whey you know what and why do you feel like you feel. And by working this way, you gain more understanding of these “negative” emotions like jealousy and it may become just energy that no longer control your mind or need to be suppressed. I feel that this can help becoming free from the attachments to behavior/feeling patterns. I think this also eases our tendency of consider something inferior or superior to other and releases our constructs that prevent union.
And when we speak of sex, love, relationships, occult partnership etc., I think this is very important part of inner working for obtaining really intimate connection.