Red Bird wrote: ↑
Sat Dec 08, 2018 9:14 pm
Heith wrote: ↑
Wed Aug 31, 2016 11:42 am
I long for a quite isolated lifestyle and solitude: it doesn't work if one has children.
I have heard a lot of comments for and against reproducing...
This made me smile because I was about to write almost the same thing.
I never found a logical argument to reproduce and for some reason I'm just not into children as much as other women. Eveyone told me this is going to change when I'm in my 30s. So far it didn't. The only reason to get a child would be the fear of regretting my decision one day when I'm to old to get pregnant and ending up jealous and frustrated. That is a horrily egoistic and poor reason to get a child, so I won't.
In the other hand I know some extremly destrucive and selfish persons who turned their lifes around for the better when they got an unplanned child.
I began to read your post and the quoted part seemed awfully familiar to me. So I checked, and I wrote that but instead the forums claim Thelithiz had. Very strange! On this I've corrected the author to be me. It's good to spot these things as our forums may still be acting a little weird.
My opinion on the matter of reproducing is still the same as before, two years after I wrote the quoted post. I can well understand what you mean by these kind of comments that people make "you will change your mind", like one would be a undeveloped being incapable of understanding what is best in life. I'm quite bored with this kind of comments and find them to be extremely impolite and completely tactless. I also find that it is very difficult to get unbiased information from doctors when one inquires about the procedure and possible side effects of sterilization. Let's just say that I am thankful for every year that I am older that the possibility of getting pregnant becomes smaller, regardless of how careful one is.
As to your comment to "not into children as much as other women", I'd say that the majority of the women I know either do not want a child, or feel undecided on the matter. But perhaps this is due to what kind of people I know more than anything.