Malja wrote: ↑
Thu Apr 02, 2020 2:17 pm
Therefore I believe parenting would be a serious hindrance to my endeavors and I´m not particularly happy about the possibility that I might end up being tied to a disabled or otherwise very challenging child to the rest of my life.
And of course there is the possibility that in case of separation, I´d be also tied to the child´s father and his future spouses the rest of my life.
Challenges make you grow, yes, but you can at least try to choose your battles.
This kind of realism/pragmatism is important when one is pondering the possibility of breeding. Parenting is -like you wisely stated- a serious hindrance, among other things.
My intuitive answer to the "Why to Breed" - question would be: "There's no reason." But that rings true only on the general level, for the reasons are very subjective and intimate even.
I've been given the answer to the "why" only after I became a mother. As a maiden I had no clue about the why, I just wanted to be impregnated, body and soul. I never been so serene as I was carrying my first child. I loved being pregnant and giving birth. The parenting part of the journey is the the soul-birth of the mother and the child, and it requires a deepest down dive to the unknown waters of collective, familiar and individual sub-consciousness. Not all rainbows and sunshine there, I must tell! Being a parent has a huge transformative potential...
Being a parent is a gift that keeps on giving - and a toll that keeps on taking.
I wasn't planning to share my personal beliefs about life and death with my children for long time (not until they'd ask, if they ever would...). But my oldest child started asking these questions as a 5 yo. Things like "when are you going to die", "when I'll die", "what happens when one dies" etc. Answering her, I was forced to answer myself the way I never done before.